wishing to please others
Please others is a fairly easy matter to tackle. Narrator: It was not.
Place it in the same category as baser tribal survival instincts. Call it a day.
Why else would I want to please others? Well. Oddly enough pleasing others is a selfish act at times. Pleasing others for my own satisfaction. Pleasing here, is used in various contexts. Such as personal relationships, in corporate settings, physical intimacy, to familial relationships. I think a reason for this may stem from a lack of acknowledgement as a child, so I do this as a way of patting myself on the back. Just a speculation.
That being said it's not like I don't get praise. When I cook for my family, they will give their thanks, but instances as that, I care not for the praise. What matters to me in those moments is ensuring their health is good, a place of concern. Not so much doing good for praise. I suppose pleasing and praise in a familial context is different.
There is more introspection to be done here on this matter. I suppose things are as easy as you make them out to be.